Talking to your friends

When you're a young carer, it can be hard to work out if you should tell your friends. And if you do share, how much do you tell them?

Here is how other young carers think about these questions.

1. You may not want to burden your friends

I don't want to put too much pressure on them, so I don't ask.’ - Kayla

2. You may feel embarrassed about what your friends might think

Earlier in Mum's life, my friends had been over at my house, and had a good relationship with my mum. When she got sick, I didn't want them to see her like that. I knew that my friends would look at my mum differently. I didn't want them to think less of me and my mum.’ - Tom

3. However, keeping it all to yourself puts you under a lot of pressure

As I've gotten older I have talked to my friends about my caring role, and they were all very accepting. I wish I'd done it sooner, so I had someone to talk to rather than just bottle it all up.’ - Shay

4. Choose who to trust

I did tell two of my closest friends. And one of them I'm no longer friends with because she acted really mean about it. And then my other friend just accepted it and we're like besties.’ - Anna

5. You don't need to share everything all at once

Just take it slow. Rather than saying, “Mum's sick and I do all of the housework,” be like, “This week, I'm going to help Mum do the groceries”.’ - Aidan

Watch how they react. They might say, "I help Mum with the groceries as well”. You might find out you have more in common with that person than you think.’ - Kevin